11.30.2006

scent of a woman?




what do you say when you spritz this on, go out, and people ask, "what's that scent you're wearing?" personally, i don't think i could pull off "why, alien of course!" with a straight face. and why does the bottle earily resemble j’onn j’onzz, the martian manhunter?



11.29.2006

miss manners

growing up, i was taught manners. please and thank you, the use of the word lavatory, to always put a napkin in your lap, offering a hand to the elderly, etc.

now, it's custom to say "hey, how are you?" when you see someone you know. and when i'm asked, i respond with "great" or "fine" or "doing well," plus i ask how they are doing. because it's the nice thing to do. plus, i'd like to know- that's what friends/colleagues/mortal enemies do. but what i've noticed lately is it isn't customary anymore for people to actually respond. it's like, "oh, you took the time to ask, but i don't have time to respond. but thanks for asking, i'll just stare off into the distance as i address this inter-office envelope, and then go ask how your cubemate is doing before i give him cold shoulder, too. " only they don't say this, they telepathically burn it into your brain all while smiling a sweet sacchrin grin. but i can still see the green antennas slyly bobbypinned into their weaves.

11.21.2006

not too sweet

for thanksgiving, i've been given the task of making cranberries (from seed stage) and dessert. the cranberries are easy- i've got 16 oz. washed and frozen, just itching to break out of their skin and socialize with some sugar and mandarin orange zest. dessert is going to be bread pudding, dulce de leche bread pudding. i made one sometime last year, and todd scarfed it up pretty quickly. that's a good sign, right? so i went searching for dulce de leche (pre-made is so much easier), but came up empty. yesterday, i called 5 different grocery stores, finally come up with a big dingdingding when i called rainbow (a worker-owned cooperative...). after work, i trekked over to rainbow, avoided the baked goods at all cost (although they don't carry brother juniper's wild rice and onion bread anymore, so the carb aisle isn't as tempting), and stared straight at the dulce de leche section. except there was nothing there. except a recipe on how to make it from a can of condensed milk at home. i found the girl i had spoken to not 2 hours earlier, and she was very apologetic, even allowing me to take the recipe (laminated and highlighted for my cooking ease) home with me. i may scavenge the mission tomorrow, but in case i come up empty, i have a back-up. so thursday, as everyone else is cooking, roasting, or smoking something of the unturkey (or ununtukey) variety, i most likely will be staring at a can of condensed milk in a vat of bubbling water for 3 hours, and knowing my luck, the can will burst and our recently cleaned and spotless kitchen (thanks to verde) will be covered in caramel. bet it's never tasted better, though. mmm, linoleum.

11.15.2006

Sankai Juku, 11/14/2006

Mirror, mirror, on the wall, these are the fairest of them all.



Sankai Juku
Kagemi: Beyond the Metaphors of Mirrors
Presented by SF Performances & Yerba Buena Center for the Arts
Performed at YBCA Forum
November 14, 2006

Butoh is more than dance; it incorporates theater and a feeling of meditation, which transforms one from being a passive audience member to a spiritually active one. Seeing Sankai Juku’s Kagemi: Beyond the Metaphors of Mirrors on Tuesday night, I truly felt transformed in both body and spirit. Entering Yerba Buena Center for the Arts’ Forum, my date and I were awestruck by the softly lit, life-size white lilies floating effortlessly onstage above a creamy white platform. In fact, I grew quite giddy trying to count them before the show, finally settling on a number roughly in the range of many several dozen or more-than-50-less-than-80. At the same time, faint music trickled in through the speakers and the glow from the flowers’ outlines created a calming pattern of dark circles on stage, transporting me to a cream-colored Japanese-influence version of Disney’s Fantasia...

For more, go here.

Photo by Sankai Juku

not so wonderful

yesterday a colleague decided to change an upcoming meeting from a regular infrastructure meeting into an infrastructure meeting with potluck. but not any potluck. a holiday/international potluck. and we're all supposed to bring something that represents our culture and heritage. um... culture? i grew up in south florida, which is known for its latino flair, and i can merengue and salsa, but that's about it. my family didn't identify with any specific ethnic group, and at school, we had a semi-diverse student base (nicauraguans, brazilians, peruvians, cubans, puerto ricans, colombians, argentinians, chileans, swedes, british, irish, french, spanish, japanese, chinese, indian, and canadian, to name a few), but i was more in the general white catagory.

however, i work at a very diverse, international organization, where unlike many of my coworkers, i was born here in the US (chicago, to be exact), and so were my parents (not in chicago). in fact, the majority of my grandparents were, too. being asked what i would bring to this international lunchtime affair, i sat there confused, and even over the phone, i think the general feeling of "huh?" was conveyed. to assist me in my mental transition to address my lack of ethnic association, my supervisor provided a vivid example: one of our chinese colleagues feasted on mice when she was younger, and her suggestion was to bring in a mouse dish (yes, little mousies) reminicsent of her childhood. i just sat there stunned. dumbfounded, even. hello, not only am i vegetarian, but that's just wrong. run, little mice, run for your lives! after this mental torment, when she asked what i would bring, all that came to mind was white bread.

11.10.2006

make believe

In a meeting recently, we were talking about learning and working styles, and somehow I got back to thinking about elementary school. All the boys would go play football or tag or be all rowdy, and a bunch of us girls got together by the swing set to play, of all things, my little pony. Each of us had a pony name, and we rode around the playground in little packs, skipping and cantering and jumping. Being the organizer that I was, I made sure each girl represented a pony, but not just any pony: the actual pony names (for all I know, I carried numbered lists with me, too). And if we ran out of pony names, the girls would name the unnamed girls with the same names like cotton candy #2 and blossom #5. but I was such a control freak, I said no. I put my foot down, stomped around, and kicked the #ed out. Go back to the jungle gym! You weren’t quick enough to grab a pony name before the other girls? Too bad.

looking back on this, I feel incredibly guilty because I wasn’t trying to be a dictator or be mean. But I’m practical. And rely on consistency. And need logic and focus go guide me. And how can you have 4 different girls, all being blue Belle? So to all my kindergarten through 2 grade female classmate, 20 years later, I apologize for being bossy and demanding and too pragmatic for my own good. Sort of.

11.08.2006

insert foot into mouth

calling the dentist yesterday:

receptionist: hello, dr. barry and barry's office.
me: hi. i'm a currently a patient, and i'd like to make an appt. for someone covered under my insurance.
receptionist: ok. is this person your spouse or child?
me: um... officially? neither. it's my... partner i guess.
receptionist: ok. what's her name?
me: uh, todd.

11.06.2006

Lines Ballet

Lines Migrates Two Steps Forward, One Downward Facing Dog Back

Lines Ballet
November 4, 2006
Fall Home Season
Migrations and Sky Clad

I have a secret to admit, and it’s no small one. Sure, I don’t have a secret baby girl who I’ve shuttled off to Alaska to live in the wild raised by grizzly bears. And no, I do not have a secret shrine complete with disco ball devoted to the ever-changing dance styles of Madonna. But what’s true is that I’ve lived in San Francisco for over five years, and hadn’t seen Lines Ballet in performance until this past weekend. That’s right. Yours truly was an Alonzo King newbie. Thankfully, though, I wasn’t a dance newbie. Otherwise, I’d think the evening’s theme was boyshorts (seemingly the preferred costume choice for King’s men).

The program’s highlight proved to be King’s stateside premiere of Migration: The Hierarchical Migration of Birds and Mammals, set to music by Pharoah Sanders, Miguel Frasconi, and Leslie Stuck. The nine dancers began their migration by taking flight (or perhaps hatching out of their shells) on the floor, arching their backs and gracefully flailing their limbs. In fact, there was a lot of graceful flailing throughout, but coupled with sweeping lifts, circular hip swivels, and quick parallel passé sautés, it took on a more gratifying importance, one of upward movement, forward thinking, and ascension.

For more, click here.

Photo by Thomas Ammerpohl

getting to know you...

does spot need a date for the midnight double feature of milo and otis and the shaggy dog at the red vic? perhaps trixie's looking for a purring backyard playdate who likes to climb trees and nibble on blue jays under the hot warmth of the november sun.

is your pet tech-savy? does he/she want to get out there (without roaming down the street) and meet other animals with similar interests and ideas? and more imporantly, are you crazy enough to support said venture? if so, look no further than catster and dogster, two sites devoted to, well, your devoted.

and yes, alphie's got a page. but it's all in the name of research. really.

11.03.2006

make new friends, but keep the old...

i didn't sleep well last night. perhaps it was the overwhelming combination of aleve, tylenol, and advil i took yesterday for the rainy knee pain along with the sudafed for the sinus headache. or it could have been partly because the cat sat on my nightstand pawing my nose every few hours. but i got up this morning, dressed myself (impressive, i know. it takes true skill.), and caught an earlier-than-normal bus to work.

on the ride in, somehow my mind started wandering (perhaps due to the woman singing hymns near the front of the bus), and i started thinking back to high school, old friends, and why and how and when we all drifted apart. maybe this is because lately a few childhood friends have come back into my life in different ways. and it's great. in some instances, we just drifted apart, heading in different directions with different people. but with others, there was that whole high school cattiness that crept into the friendship and dissolved it into millions of little pieces, which makes me second guess these newfound efforts of friendship. and while some invite me to start anew via joining their friendster list or send a note via myspace or emailing me with a general update, it doesn't make the uncertainty go away. like can we get past that i got boobs first, and while all the boys thought it was cool, i felt utterly embarrassed as my chest inflated at an ungainly rate? will they come over to my house (or apartment) and visit now that my dad isn't around to scare them away with his incoherant babble about who has donated more money? have they gotten over the fact that i chose going to college a year early over a potentially agonizing senior year stuck inside the pine crest bubble of wealth and privledge, and realize i didn't do it to "get away from them"? and am i just being added to a "friends" list to increase their stats or do they really want to renew old bonds?

so my lesson learned from this morning? MUNI (the bus system): it pumps your brain, but not your wallet.

11.02.2006

november rain

growing up in south florida, it was too hot and humid for raincoats (shorts all year-round!), so we used umbrellas. or just ran from home to car to einstein's bagels to car to smoothie king to car to home. or better yet, used the drive-thru (thank goodness for krispy kreme!). in college, rain normally symbolized cold, brrrrr-inducing weather or during the end of november through march, snow, which necessitated a heavy rain/snow/keep-me-warm-at-all-costs l.l. bean type body armor. since moving to san francisco, i've used a combination of the two with the addition of the wool beanie- it keeps my head dry in those warmer situations, which makes it a good combination with the umbrella. and in the windy downpours, it acts as a good back-up to the parka hood. i also added the snazzy rain boots for the rare yet pants-ruining muddy days (sans knee brace and crutch, of course). but now, after lots of hemming and hawing, i think it's time to graduate from the rain parka to a more adult, city-friendly raincoat. and while for years, i've been looking for the perfect raincoat, it's time to buckle down and commit. that's right, i need to face the music (ideally with lyrics by justin timberlake). my requirements are few, though:

1. a dark color, such as black, navy, or brown.
2. must have a working, full head-covering hood which actually provides protection from the elements. no flimsy fashion hoods for me.
3. must come at least to the knee- i hate walking around with wet pants (especially jeans), all day long.
4. cannot have elasticized wrists- ick.
5. will not make me look like my grandmother.